We are increasingly living in a narcissistic society? If so, are social networks and other to blame?

You are really sharing or providing outlets for self-promotion?


It’s not tough to see why the Internet would create a good platform for a narcissist. Generally thought, they prefer one-way relationships, with the point of view toward themselves. This means some people are too much interest in and admire their own physical appearance or own abilities.  And the Internet offers both a vast potential audience, and the possibility for different image of you will allow doing that.

The emergence of the possible self is well happen where accountability is lacking and the true- self can be hided.”

There is significant link narcissism with high levels of activity on Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr or MySpace.  We are often pay attention and distinguish on what kinds of activity the narcissists are engaging in, through their news feed, though time-wasting, exactly self-centred. And people post online for different reasons. For example, in Twitter, the common trouble with determining ourselves is keeping in touch or not, where they are in the centre of online conversation. While narcissism possibly sets people engaging in the same online behaviours and they also have different motives for doing so.

How often people tweet or update their Facebook status, and how much they agreed with statements like “It is important that my followers admire me,” and “It is exciting that my profile makes others want to be my friend.” And people keep chasing to update their profile and status to follow up others, as long as to prove their ‘self’ (Forrester 2011).

Facebook has really been around Generation Y was increasingly growing up and they know it more as a communication tool, not a natural way. Nevertheless, adults who have not grown up in Facebook’s age, they are more likely getting higher intentional motives, such narcissism.” This frequently includes Facebook posters and photo taggers, as well as gets more Facebook friends.

Whereas on Facebook, the friend relationship is obvious, you may not want to follow someone on Twitter who follows you, though it is often polite to do so, if you are a kind of elegant one. Rather than friend-requesting people usually want to get attention from the social media followers by tweeting, which simply show the relevance between number of tweets and narcissism? (Beckjan 2014)

For the research of social media use, the college pupils prefer answering questions by taking personality tests to assess their narcissistic tendencies, while the white adults would like online surveys.

The more people get involved with Facebook, the more they likely to think other people’s lives were happier and better.” These heavy users were also more likely to negatively compare themselves to others and feel worse about them.


Walking down on the street you can see the number of people touching cell phones at their faces for “selfie.” on social networks and other new media simply to broadcast narcissistic tendencies.  

In other aspects, the “selfie” is like so much in the digital world – kind of all about “me,” but sometimes find an “us” is very hard and rare (Elizabeth & Barbara 2012)

It seem that people get self-promotional nature of these social media sites, as well as promoting in actual self-esteem in young generation, as significant phenomenon.

By nature of relying on user-generated content like Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram encourage an endless flow of self-promotion. People can capture with their own image rather than interacting with others. My concern is what we can be deal with a world where everyone acts like the superstar of their own reality show. Do you think this is where we are headed?  (Freedland 2013, Psych Alive Organisation 2012).


Beckjan, J, 2014, ‘How to Spot a Narcissist Online’, The Atlantic, 16 January, viewed 6 August 2014, <http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/01/how-to-spot-a-narcissist-online/283099/>.

Elizabeth L, Barbara, S 2012, ‘Are people really more narcissistic than ever before? If so, are social networks and other new media to blame?’, Ted Conversation, viewed 8 August 2014, <http://www.ted.com/conversations/18501/are_people_really_more_narciss.html>.

Forrester, N 2011, ‘Social Media: An Epidemic of Narcissism’, Huffington Post, 12 December, viewed 2 August 2014, <http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/nicole-forrester/social-media–narcissism-_b_1128168.html>.

Freedland, J 2013, ‘The selfie’s screaming narcissism masks an urge to connect’, The Guardian Online News, 19 November, viewed 8 August 2014, <http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2013/nov/19/selfie-narcissism-oxford-dictionary-word>.

Psych Alive Organisation, 2012, ‘Is Social Media to Blame for the Rise in Narcissism?’, Psych Alive Organisation, viewed 7 August 2014, <http://www.psychalive.org/is-social-media-to-blame-for-the-rise-in-narcissism/>.



The more we “CONNECT”, the more we are really “DISCONNECTED” on? Being alone on Facebook?

The mission of Facebook, as CEO Mark Zuckerberg wants to reach, is to make “the world more open and connected.” Yes, that feels true of the promise of greater connection and it is all about social media users expect in coming decades. But there are limitations on how we should be on Facebook.


We usually want to make friend who we are interested in through Facebook, as a very exciting way, rather than an email sending or directly asking for phone number. The Facebook itself can show how and what in common between you and your new comers have and several suggestions, just a click “Add Friend”. But sometimes it does not likely work, Facebook expect us whether we and he/she is personally well-known enough to be a friend or what we share the same. This is because you and that person have not known yet in person or in real life, otherwise there is no same mutual friends or something that both of you have not in similar. Some people, otherwise, have over hundreds of Facebook friends, they speak to all of them, yet none of them really know each other.

The only thing that Facebook can do for you is following or even sending a friend request/ a message and waiting for their responses. Is that really people feel free to connect others on Facebook?.

Different from the social life, on Facebook, people can find a way to break a relationship so easy by a click “unfriend” or “blocking” setting, then you and that person will not be a part any  more. We, however, make a call or meet in person is alternatively a nice way to solve problem rather than doing that way. Therefore, Facebook somehow physically disconnects as easy as connect others. In serious case, due to it’ widespread features, Facebook can be a place for cyber bullying, harassing, as long as social phobia, when people are isolated.

Excitingly, a short romantic conversation on social networking sites can quickly turn them in “official” or “in a relationship” status without any concerns of others’ identity (Warners 2008).

Even Facebook user can safeguard themselves with a “Friends Only” setting or there is limits on friend requests, because he or she just desire to add a friend by themselves and to whom they truly want to. But do you ever wonder how many times that you meet them in person, and how many of them that you have been in face-to-face communication with.

Sometimes I wonder how and why I say that naturally. “Hey! Sorry I am busy; anyway could we meet on Facebook later?”

Then, days by days, seeing friends face to face is no longer familiar to me.

Many people too believe Facebook would bring them closer than ever before to recognise that they are losing the relationship, because they do not much care and just coming home spend time with computer’s space. People today are missing out on genuine connections because they are constantly glued to their digital devices. Even when they are hanging out with their friends, people still update their new Facebook feeds, or check Twitter status. (Taylor 2014)

In a world consumed by socializing, there is less and less actual society we will get. We stay in an increasing contradiction: the more connected we have the lonelier we become. We have been promised a global village; instead of living in a lonely inhabit and a vast endless suburb of information. And ridiculously, social media is making us less social.

Current research shows that we have been lonelier and this online loneliness is bringing us a form of physical and mental illness (Marche 2012).


Marche, S 2012, ‘Is Facebook Making Us Lonely?’, The Atlantic, 2 April, viewed 1 August 2014, <http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/05/is-facebook-making-us-lonely/308930/>.

Taylor, V 2014, ‘Viral video encourages the social media-obsessed to disconnect’, New York Daily News, 5 May, viewed 2 August 2014, <http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/video-urging-people-log-social-media-viral-article-1.1780464?cid=radiumOne#jG6mBWloU7X52b7I.97>.

Warners, M 2008, ‘Facebook and Crackberries: Breeding A Disconnected Generation’, Huffington Post, 6 February, viewed 8 August 2014, <http://www.huffingtonpost.com/morgan-warners/facebook-and-crackberries_b_104599.html

The break-up of “Humanity” came as no surprise with Internet

The Internet has increasingly allowed access to information for ordinary people in ways that were unimaginable for along ago. This also means the gap is no longer existed in terms of demography, religion, and gender.  We might have more access to information than ever before; however, it actually does not have a positive impact on our media literacy and human communication.

More than a decade, we have been spending a lot of time online, searching, launching business, sometimes adding to the great databases of the Internet, or entertainment and more (Carr 2008). We, unfortunately, steadily forget the simple thing which also is the most important that is how we do with the Internet.


A crisis of attention

We can sit in one place and enjoy a bunch of online books by a click on Google rather than visiting the city libraries or nearly the school’s one to find a book with some highlights and taking notes. Whereas, in library we can share and discuss some interests toward the reading, and even widen a network.

Due to ability of skimming and scanning online material, people often seem to give up as long as consuming information in little chunks of text.  We get unfamiliar with higher, complex arguments and articles or even print texts after a few screens of HTML rather than the traditional sense.

“We are unable to critical thinking, being creative and less engaged in long-form thinking”.

Comprehension, concentration, and recall rates when interact with online material are all much lower than traditional medium brings. They think it is faster and more selectively, but they were more likely less remember what have read in important.

That is how our brain online works, we become relatively distracted when reading online due to pop-up advertising, checking news, hypertext linking, viewing video clips and a variety of online sources.

The human connection lasts shorter caused by these devices

We are losing some very important things by doing this, our creativity and self- stimulation may be left behind. And we seem inhibit real human connection when we prioritize our mobile internet over our people right in front of us and disconnected from them. Day by day, it becomes a negative behaviour and not an ability that we can control anymore.

“We are happy in a lonely space”. The more we expect from technology or the Internet and less interaction from each other.

Imagine the world in 15 years from now; we may no longer maintain a face to face communication, a group discussion in a hall, going shopping together, experiencing a match in stadium, enjoying some new restaurant dishes and more. This brings our relationship or communication is never naturally closed and efficient than it used to be.


Social Media in China and across Asia (By Thomas Crampton)

In China, 68% of teenagers have more online friends than offline where they find hard to distinguish between what happens online from the “real world”, and as long as social media has become strongly integrated into their lives.

Though less than 20 precent mobile phones are used for Twitter updates in the United States, this is a phenomenon of China’s mobile Internet, the biggest trends in Asia. These are also significant questions for us to think about in 5 year coming.




Figure 1: Internet usage in some Asia nations

Further:  Social Media Landscape in Vietnam in 2014


Look Up

“Look up and see around” is what we can do to come over a crisis of attention, let’s spend a second to look back and it’s going to be better for our relationships, society and creativity. It is no doubt to agree with the Internet’s benefits, for our better future we should conscious about it – “cyberculture”.


Let your eyes off these devices for a second