The more we “CONNECT”, the more we are really “DISCONNECTED” on? Being alone on Facebook?

The mission of Facebook, as CEO Mark Zuckerberg wants to reach, is to make “the world more open and connected.” Yes, that feels true of the promise of greater connection and it is all about social media users expect in coming decades. But there are limitations on how we should be on Facebook.


We usually want to make friend who we are interested in through Facebook, as a very exciting way, rather than an email sending or directly asking for phone number. The Facebook itself can show how and what in common between you and your new comers have and several suggestions, just a click “Add Friend”. But sometimes it does not likely work, Facebook expect us whether we and he/she is personally well-known enough to be a friend or what we share the same. This is because you and that person have not known yet in person or in real life, otherwise there is no same mutual friends or something that both of you have not in similar. Some people, otherwise, have over hundreds of Facebook friends, they speak to all of them, yet none of them really know each other.

The only thing that Facebook can do for you is following or even sending a friend request/ a message and waiting for their responses. Is that really people feel free to connect others on Facebook?.

Different from the social life, on Facebook, people can find a way to break a relationship so easy by a click “unfriend” or “blocking” setting, then you and that person will not be a part any  more. We, however, make a call or meet in person is alternatively a nice way to solve problem rather than doing that way. Therefore, Facebook somehow physically disconnects as easy as connect others. In serious case, due to it’ widespread features, Facebook can be a place for cyber bullying, harassing, as long as social phobia, when people are isolated.

Excitingly, a short romantic conversation on social networking sites can quickly turn them in “official” or “in a relationship” status without any concerns of others’ identity (Warners 2008).

Even Facebook user can safeguard themselves with a “Friends Only” setting or there is limits on friend requests, because he or she just desire to add a friend by themselves and to whom they truly want to. But do you ever wonder how many times that you meet them in person, and how many of them that you have been in face-to-face communication with.

Sometimes I wonder how and why I say that naturally. “Hey! Sorry I am busy; anyway could we meet on Facebook later?”

Then, days by days, seeing friends face to face is no longer familiar to me.

Many people too believe Facebook would bring them closer than ever before to recognise that they are losing the relationship, because they do not much care and just coming home spend time with computer’s space. People today are missing out on genuine connections because they are constantly glued to their digital devices. Even when they are hanging out with their friends, people still update their new Facebook feeds, or check Twitter status. (Taylor 2014)

In a world consumed by socializing, there is less and less actual society we will get. We stay in an increasing contradiction: the more connected we have the lonelier we become. We have been promised a global village; instead of living in a lonely inhabit and a vast endless suburb of information. And ridiculously, social media is making us less social.

Current research shows that we have been lonelier and this online loneliness is bringing us a form of physical and mental illness (Marche 2012).


Marche, S 2012, ‘Is Facebook Making Us Lonely?’, The Atlantic, 2 April, viewed 1 August 2014, <>.

Taylor, V 2014, ‘Viral video encourages the social media-obsessed to disconnect’, New York Daily News, 5 May, viewed 2 August 2014, <>.

Warners, M 2008, ‘Facebook and Crackberries: Breeding A Disconnected Generation’, Huffington Post, 6 February, viewed 8 August 2014, <


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